Thursday, November 8, 2012


“Dad, you said it wasn't going to kick me much….”

Sometime last Spring Logan got it in his little head that he was ready for the big leagues. He had tagged along on enough hunts. Studied on the heels of his father long enough. Sat through endless hours of Outdoors Television asking all the right questions. Been the bird dog and done his time.  He now had a plan to be a gun-toting member of the hunting party.

Logan’s Plan = Convince Mom and then give Dad a sound financial plan.

As birthday cards rolled in for his big sister, Logan began to realize that his October birthday could be a real money making venture. Emma quickly topped a hundred dollars and spent it almost equally as fast on dolls and glitter. As the big sister reveled in the glow of recreational spending money, you could tell that Logan was realizing that if he played his cards right and bet on all of the right relatives, this was a done deal.

With his October birthday fast approaching and cards starting to trickle in, Logan used a routine family trip to Fleet Farm to size up some firearms. .20 gauge or .410?  Matched pair, single shot or pump? Logan was a 5 year old on a mission to be a 6 year old gun owner. As an early stipulation he carefully scrutinized each possibility by asking, “Can it shoot turkeys?”. Our hunting buddies brought over their pump action, Mossberg Bantam .20 gauge that 8 year old Nolan “just” grew into. Even with the shooting stick, it was too much of an elephant gun for Logan to shoulder. Although it was a sharp looking gun and outfitted to the gills for turkeys, the 13-inch stock proved to be too big a hill to climb for the Bear. But it did plant a seed.

On Logan’s own accord, he forfeited a traditional birthday party so that Mom and Dad would agree to fund the remaining balance of his purchase. Only in Kindergarten, Logan had obviously paid attention during Math and Economics lessons. With money in hand and a trip down the interstate, Pandora’s Box was opened.  Gander Mountain associates clamored to help the eager young customer. Even though he wasn’t tall enough to see over the counter, 3 brand new shotguns lay before him. A Bantam .410 was screaming dad’s name and begging to go grouse hunting. A beautiful synthetic stocked Super Bantam in .20 gauge topped the budget but it’s 12” stock caught Logan’s eye. The Matched Pair Rossi .410/.17 HMR never really had a chance. So we tracked Mom down in, of all places, the Shoe Section and asked for her approval.

The salesman turned on the charm and Michele was quickly swayed on a .20 gauge that could be used for turkeys, geese, grouse, and just about everything for years to come.  Believing it was the right choice, she gave the OK to buy the upgrade. I may kick myself one day but Logan and I knew that as beautiful and impressive as the Super Bantam was, now was not the time. Although the shorter stock allowed the half pint to correctly mount the gun, the .20 gauge was not going to be able to be carried on our next grouse hunt, let alone shot without a shooting stick anytime soon. Logan wanted a weapon that he could tote in the grouse woods and fire at will. With that, we politely parted ways with Gander Mountain and headed for Fleet Farm. Our 6 year old knew exactly what he wanted.
Firmly convinced and comfortable with his decision, Logan said, “Dad, if it’s still there I want to buy it.” Without much fanfare, he walked up to the Fleet Farm sales counter, spied the piece and laid his money down. Of course there was obligatory paperwork because gun laws nowadays just don’t allow handing over a “heavy iron” to a kindergartner. Mom and Logan picked out 2 boxes of ammo and thankfully, Dad passed the background check. With a smile that could light up any room and a spring in his step, Logan was the proud owner of a TUFFY, .410 gauge, single shot, Rossi shotgun. (Commonly know as a “Snake Charmer.”)
At 34.25 inches from tip to tip, this cute little bugger was no toy. Logan beamed with pride on our way home as he drank in the idea that this 3” chambered, .410 with a 18.5 inch barrel and black synthetic thumbhole stock with generous texturing and 4 round capacity in the buttstock was actually his! With his sound financial plan, Bear covered the entire cost and the 3 pound hunting machine that now rest in is lap was just waiting for their lifetime of memories to begin.
A few days of ownership and admiration passed before we were able to set aside some time and secure a place to test fire this beast. Coach Mettling offered up his parents’ farmyard just north of Pine City and one evening after football practice Logan and I ran out there. We carefully choose a tree with some nice back brush to tack a paper plate in. It was just before dusk and you could sense the excitement and anticipation of a moment that Logan had waited so patiently for. Small game vest and matching blaze orange hat gave the three-footer the appearance of a seasoned veteran. I could see that he was nervous because he got quiet. But you could also feel his calming nature take over as he sidled up to me to await final instructions.
As I was instructed by Momma, I asked Logan if he wanted to be the first one to shoot his new gun or if he wanted Dad to show him how loud it would be or how big of a kick it my give.
No.
Me.
I presented my boy with a live shotgun round and helped him with the breach. The matte blued finish of cold steel made the front sight brass bead easy to see as the sun reached the horizon. Placing a reassuring hand on his right shoulder, I knelt beside him and whispered that he’d be O.K. With his heart racing a million miles an hour, he struggled to pull the hammer back and then calmly switched the weapon to FIRE. As he had previously learned on his BB gun, the Bear pressed his cheek to the buttstock and acquired his target.
BAM!
The .410 barked and did a complete three hundred and sixty degree flip out of the child’s hands. The paper plate had been rocked! In one motion I scooped up the gun and my son and showered him with positive praise. “You did it! You hammered it! Great shot Logan! Wow! You’re awesome!”
Logan stood there stunned and Coach Mettling grinned. It was more than the little guy had expected. It was nothing like shooting Dad’s .22 Not even in the same ballpark as his “baby” old BB Gun. As I poured on the praise, I could see Logan’s eyes fill with tears. But he never once let one little tear escape the edges of those beautiful little eyes. He held it in. Perhaps without Coach Mettling there, the waterworks may have been on. But not tonight!
 Logan was now ready for Dad and Mr. Mettling to have a turn. He was ready to be the observer for a while but sure enough, “he got back on that horse for another go’round”.
Logan fired his .410 two more times that evening, both with some minor assistance from his old man. I was proud. Mettling was proud. But most of all, Logan was proud - too proud to cry but shaken, no doubt. The good news is, since that night, we have purchased a neoprene shock absorber that has taken the sting and some of the bite away from the Snake Charmer. Logan’s big sister and a couple of his friends have fired it. The bruises have faded and Logan has toted it on a half a dozen miles of grouse trails Although he doesn’t have his first confirmed kill with it yet, he did ask Dad to take a red squirrel with it.
For Logan, this gun was the right choice. He is one step closer to being a man… but he’d better concentrate on finishing kindergarten first.






Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Happy Birthday Logan!

 
Today is Logan's 6th birthday..
 
I will admit that Logan was an 'ohpps' baby.
 (then again so was I and I turned out pretty great)
But we just love this little guy like no other.........
He's our 'laid back' baby/child.
Just go with the flow.....
Happy to do whatever.....
Loving....caring......

Such a cute face!
 
Enjoys being around his big brother and sometimes his sister.

 
Not a big complainer or whiner...
 
 
LOVES to be outside hunting, fishing, playing or picking up dog poo...

Curious and attentive. 

Doesn't need the limelight....


Someday, this boy will have a million hunting/fishing stories....

Happy Birthday Logan! 
We love you!

Friday, September 21, 2012

Round up!

Well hello there!  How are you and where the heck have we been?
Thought it was time to do a photo update from this summer and catch everyone up to speed on where the Kirby Krew is at in life....
 
It was a busy and fun summer.....here are a few highlights...
 

Kirby and Logan scored tickets to an all star hockey game for Veterans. They got lots of autographs from some pretty cool players.  Kirby loves to tell the story of how they stood in line for over an hour and when the gal came out to cut the line off, she did so right after she looked at Logan's cute little face.
 


I think Kirby went there just to get Gigi Marvin's autograph.
The cool story behind that is she remembered Logan a few weeks later when we were up in Warroad for the 4th and he was at the penny drop game.  She was in charge and as soon as Logan walked up, she said..."Hey Logan..."  I told Logan he was a little too young to ask her out.... 

Warroad...we never have a dull moment there....
Logan jumping into LOTW.....notice the rope tied to him so we didn't lose him in the big lake.
 The kids even went tubing....Good job Papa Tom driving!

 We bought the kids some roller blades and all of us when for a few long skates by the lake. Don't they look tough?
 And yes, there was fishing.....
 And jumping off the wall.......
 
Then it was time for some camping on the North Shore.
Logan was busy building his log cabin.
 We spent a lot of time looking for tadpoles.
 And enjoyed the rocks and waterfalls and quietness of no TV-Cell Phones-Computers-Work.....


One of my favorite pictures! 
 
Of course in between all the fun trips we had tball and dry land hockey and swimming lessons and volleyball and backyard baseball....
 
 
 After 8 years of living in our house, we finally painted our bedroom....
 
Emma turned 8! How did that happen? We spent the day at the State Fair eating and looking. 
(oh and hi Raider.....)
 

First day of school!
Kindergarten for Logan.
Third grade for Emma.
Tenth grade for Tyler.
Eleventh year of teaching for Kirby....

 
And of course...Kirby is coaching football again-I started coaching the 8th grade volleyball team...
Kids are signed up for hockey this winter.
I'm trying to figure out how to teach our dogs to do some laundry and cook to help out.
 
And last weekend we all watched my Dad achieve his brown belt in Karate. He's 1 belt away from earning his black belt. We are super proud of him! 
It was crazy watching him throw punches and kicks......

 
 
And there you have it in a nut shell.......
 
Life is good. 

Friday, June 15, 2012

Soccer 101

Another season of soccer is in the books!
It was fun, the weather was good for the most part and no injuries!






Emma and her teammates.



Logie bear is just a natural soccer player!  He was super fun to watch. You could tell with both him and Emma that they played hockey and knew how to spread out and pass the ball.


Getting his medal from Coach Daddy!

5  year olds are so cute in uniforms.


Next up......Tball, dry land hockey, swimming lessons and lots of summer fun!

Sunday, June 3, 2012



It's official!
Logan graduated preschool.
He had a great year and got so dang smart!
He was blessed to have some awesome teachers who ogled over his freckles every day.

Next year, it's off to Kindergarten!
We love you Logan!

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Track n Field Day

Last week...Emma had track and field day. It was the 1st-2nd and 3rd graders, it was low key, quick and fun.  The kids rotated around 8 stations each getting ample time to show their skills and participate.

Emma's first station was snack.  Which I know she is rather skilled at eating.

Then it was off to 'how far can you toss a bean bag off your foot' station.

She did very well. Fun to watch her be happy for herself and for her peers.


The boy standing behind her was so cute to watch.
He and Emma are friends and he smiled and cheered her on more than anyone else in their group.
A few weeks ago, Emma was sick from school and when she came back the next day, he had made her a flower.  Uh-hem, watch out Daddy in ten years!


Time to run....
Just look at that take off!


Time for long jump....check out that hang time! Just like her mother.



There were other stations but hard to get a decent picture. So, her she is at the end just hanging out and waiting.


It was a nice day, so fun to see all the kids we hear about all the time from her and to see her interact with her peers.  I can't believe our baby girl is going into 3rd grade. Where does the time go?

Great job Emma! Love you!


Monday, May 14, 2012

DULUTH TO DES MOINES

Friday, mid-morning, and I found myself in the basement lounge of the Dry Dock in Duluth. It was time for the bi-annual meeting of the Great Polar Football Alliance coaches and athletic directors. 20-some, not so lean, not as mean guys from all over north central Minnesota, once again got together to discuss schedules and bylaws, gameday videos and guidelines. It was a good two hour meeting amongst Friday Night Enemies that are otherwise friends. When the meeting was adjourned, I felt recharged. After being drug through an unnecessary gauntlet of truth, rumors and slander earlier this spring, I was happy again to be called “Coach”.

I left Duluth with another level of respect for those men that serve children much in the same manner that I do. I could see it in their faces, hear it in their comments. These guys care about quality high school experiences for the kids under their tutelage. Most parents have no idea of the extent that this caring reaches beyond the general expectations of a high school coaching contract. I’m glad that I get a front seat to see how much someone else can care about my kids.

It is 395 miles down Interstate 35 from Duluth to Des Moines and by supper time Friday night, my family covered that straight stretch like it was our job. We checked into the Ramada Tropics for a weekend of waterslides and “developmental basketball”. You see, Tyler has joined the ranks of thousands of hoopsters pursuing the year-round basketball dream. He plays for the 15U Minnesota Triple Threat, un upstart team dedicated to expanding the basketball skills of kids while expanding their own wallets. Make no mistake about it, my oldest son is part of a well oiled, money making machine. Playing in the Iowa Gym Rat - King of the Court tournament is disguised as an opportunity for young athletes to test their skills against high levels of competition but at the root of the “opportunity” - somebody, somewhere is making a heck of a lot of money!

Jealous? Certainly. I wish I had the sports marketing wherewithall to throw a bracket of 252 teams together into pool play at $400 bucks a registration. My quick 6th grade Math puts that total over the $100,000 mark for a weekend of “pay to play”. Of course, that’s before sponsors, concessions, tshirts, $15 dollar weekend admission, referees, hotels, utilities - I know. I know... there is Business “Risk and Reward” 101 all over this. At the very least, the logistics were impressive. What wasn’t so impressive though was the continual embarrassing display of self-righteous, helicopter parenting. Greed, poor sportsmanship, anger, aggression... Overinflated parental expectations coupled with all of the screaming and yelling made it a less enjoyable experience for my wife and me. We sat back and listened to know-it-all parents question every call and non-call made by officials that I’m sure were doing their best job in games that were happening at lightning speeds.

I watched a guy leave his spectator position amongst the crowd and walk the long way around the court to demand that his son enter the game. Totally demeaning any position of authority that the young coach had over his players that he, no doubt, was doing his best to lead in a hostile situation. “The machine” of the King of the Court tournament when stripped of all of its bells and whistles is just a game played by children - for their enjoyment. At one point during a break in the action, one young man even so much as told his family that he had heard enough out of them. “Coaching” from the sidelines had taken the fun out of it for him.

Michele thinks that each parent should watch a mandatory video on “sportsmanship” when paying admission. Maybe even spend a day or a game serving as a referee or a coach. Very few of those parents are qualified to do either. But they’ve traveled this far. They’ve paid the tuitions of the “developmental programs”. Invested so much of their time and money into “the machine” that they somehow feel justified when demanding the very best out of their kid, every coach, every referee - even if the whole time they’re making a fool of themselves. Yell at the refs. Yell at your kid. Yell at the refs some more and then yell at someone else’s kid. It was embarrassing to sit amongst them. We sat elsewhere when we could.

As a parent of 3 little jocks, I’m worried about what the future holds. If it’s like this from Duluth to Des Moines, is it like this from Boston to Berkley? From Detroit to Dallas? From “Small Town” Tennesse to “Big City” California? Raising good kids is hard enough. Made even harder when they are witness to such poor examples of what good competition should bring. Respect for yourself. Respect for your opponents. Respect for the people serving in supportive roles so you can enjoy the whole experience. I want them to be competitive and driven on their own and I will do my best to give them all of the opportunities in the world. I’m just not so sure I’m ready to sacrifice their innocence in the pursuit of it.

Take a seat, sit back, have a Coke and a smile...enjoy the next game. You paid for it.

(Side note - Tyler was “workman” like for 4 games. Made some mistakes but played hard. He was solid from the free throw line and sealed a big win for his team on Saturday afternoon. We were proud of him this weekend and enjoyed watching him play.)